The Feel Good ~~ means Really!!

We all want to feel good. It is our basic human need. For that we need to feed great into ourselves: both the eatable food and the mind food. As we all are the output of what is inputted in, we need to take this matter closely.

The body we have is the product of not only we eat, also of what we think, feel and constantly ponder about. Strength and agility is the result of great food and also saying no to health-destroying foods. We all know this, yet only the ones who practice this discipline on a regular basis are the ones who actually get nurtured from adopting this practice.

We also know that we got into our business or our jobs based on the education we had acquired. It, then, becomes all the more important to take care of our mental diet. As we all are maturing towards a generation of excellence, we all know that education continues till the time we die. The entire pursuit is to make things better and more novel. The entire reason for existence is to feel good and great and phenomenal about ourselves so that we end up implanting only gorgeousness in our lives and lives of everyone around us. The entire gamut of life is to take care of the garden that is blooming within ourselves, and also to take daily actions to nurture the plants and blow away the weeds. The entire “because” is happiness and thus, to take the actions that bring forth happiness.

Life wants all of us to grow and rise above the current standards. If we can think of it, we can achieve it. Every self-help book talks of this. Then why are we discussing this right now? Because repetition is the only way to abundance – of wealth, knowledge and happiness. We become what we consistently practice.

Do we really have to feel good even when things are really going awry? This situation can be divided into two parts:

Part # 1: When situation is relating to people

When our situation concerns people around us, and somewhere they are involved in making us feel down (remember, a leader has very little of these situations), we need to communicate with them in a matter that could resolve the dispute for all of us. Mourn, cry, go deep into your emotions and feel them. Then, wake up the shining star within yourself and take charge to make the things go better. You are the captain of your ship, always remember that.

Part # 2: When we are confronted by a situation that is not concerned with people.

Quick time, roll up your sleeves. Do not give yourself more than 100 seconds to feel low, come back in the moment, give gratitude for all that you are gifted with, and then move forward with positive frame of mind and positive action. Your life is a gift. Materialistic world can never conquer the unbeatable relentless power of the human soul.

You see, so simple is the recipe to feel good. The fact of the matter is, to go deep into yourself and ask yourself the following questions:

  1. What are the situations that put me down?
  2. What habit or behavior can I cultivate in order to nurture a positive response from myself that is in alignment with me feeling better, even just a little more, every single time?

After that, whenever heartbreak tries to get in, march into it by shutting it out within 100 seconds. Let life know that you are the lion welcoming all its fervor and fun!

So what are you going to do today for feeling great? Write down in the comments below and share the blog post with a friend whom you know needs it…

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Here’s what The Lion means like ~~

We all are the ambassadors of greatness and self-respect. The world tells us to be respecting everyone else, in order to fit in, in order to be a part of the herd, in order to make us gather the approval of the world which we soon realize didn’t matter at all. Does your heart tell you to do so? No, it doesn’t. Our greatest times of fulfillment are the ones wherein we ripped apart the boundaries of what the brain thought, and marched valiantly into following our heart’s calling.

Doing so is not difficult or easy. It simply is the right thing. We are supposed to do what that gut feeling yearns to do and not to ever think about what that monkey mind starts within a second of our intuition. Think about this. Often the first thing that strikes you is the right thing. Then comes the voice of the social conditioning that tells us to follow the masses. “If you will follow the masses, you will end up at the exit gate,” said Robin Sharma.

Most of the things “normal” human beings give attention to, do not matter at all. If you are a lover of vacations (and we all must be), just plan out yours and enjoy with all your heart and fervor. It does not matter in the least that your colleague went to a nearby holiday spot last weekend without informing you. How many times do the chatter of the monkey mind takes us over if we are not aware? Hundreds of times in a day. If we are not paying attention to where our mind is going for a vacation, and paying attention to where others are going for their vacations, isn’t it the time to rejig your priorities and set them straight? Yes it is. This is what yu are looking for. This is what I am here to help you out with.

What we all do, here at TAB, i.e., The Awesomeness Blog, for 6 days of the week, is to remember that you are the captain of your ship. You are the lion, which has his head high up, not the sheep, which walks in surrender to his master. We are more that we have ever imagined ourselves to be.

The thing is: we will reach our unimagined higher levels once we accept and acknowledge ourselves for where we are today. Is it difficult? No, it is the only way.

Why is it so necessary to accept ourselves where we are today and become the lions of our lives? Because it is your life. You do not have to hurt anyone anyway, although you have to be of responsibility and service to the humanity; but how are you going to do that if you do not take your own responsibility for happiness and growth?

We human beings are immensely capable of doing what we think we are capable of doing. Once you know that being the lion with the head high up in adoration and bliss, then you are going to face the pragmatic changes that will be stunningly awesome.

Also, please remember that the lion we are talking about here is not in the literal sense of diluting all the weaklings around us. Lion means we are eating up our fears on a consistent basis, as and when they arise, because our true nature is of champion and overcoming our demons through fighting them and standing for what’s right.

So how to ignite the lion within you? These are some of the tactics and actions you can apply to remember, that you are The Lion of your life and your life will work according to the directions of its King/Queen:

  1. Settle for nothing less than your own standards. Majority agree to what is right for the world around them. In so doing, they look downwards like a sheep. Remember, only when you surrender yourself to let someone else be the master, you end up letting your crown down. It never gets off from someone whose head is held up high.
  2. When to persist is impossible, deliver your best work. It is like people leave their dreams and passions to the mercy of inspiration and moods, and work slogging for anyone whom they desire approval of. Rather, being relentless to your craft and saying no just to have approval or liking from someone is the mindset of the lion.
  3. Your mind brings into physical reality what it is seeing and imagining. Initially by the ancient wisdom and now by the scientific researches, it has been proven that whatever thought is fed to the mind with repetition, more thoughts of the kind are created. The Reticular Activating System (RAS) is the machinery that is used to create everything that is being seen. This is the reason visualization and imagination are super-powerful tools. Visualize yourself being the lion of whatever game of life that has the fortune of having you as the player, and roar over it through the art that you create and the value you deliver, anything else is not worth you.

Wrapping up, let us remember that the ones who criticize your bravery are the ones who themselves lack bravery and are always looking for some more people to populate their gang. Let us create our own army, an army of lions, who are valiant enough to fight for love, mastery, courage, going beyond, and excellence; that transcend the notions of limitations and create wondrous abundance, in all areas of life, for ourselves, and for the world, because we all need it.

When it’s tough, make yourself tougher 👍🏻

How wonderful success had been if it would have appeared in front of us the moment we wished it? Maybe we won’t have even valued and nurtured it. Maybe we’d have lost our sense of purpose and vitality with every bit and fragment of it.

Success is really awesome, thankfully. It makes us fall in love with it when it’s away from us, and makes us even more humble and open to life once it lands in our bounty.

We’ve always been talking about that success comes to those who do different things and also in a manner different from he rest of the world. Researchers have now proved that the greatest factor that determines success of an individual is their grit. Persistence to stay focused on their dream irrespective of the past failures or the present worries.

A pure future is created from the spotless present bearing no tinge of the past.

Is it impossible? No it ain’t. Is is difficult? Of course it is. Is it worth it? Well, your choices create your destiny.

Why we are discussing time and it’s importance whilst talking about persistence? Because persistent people have a set of standards and they keep on raising those standards irrespective of what happened in the past. Doesn’t mean that they weren’t broke. Simply means what they chose to focus on became their destiny.

Each day, as we wake up, we have a choice. A choice to move forward and to amaze the world by our very presence. All the great marvels on and outside this planet were created by people no different than you and I. We may live the same day 365 times and call it a year, or we may break free from the chains of the brain’s chatter and listen to our intuition and change the world in the process.

The billion dollar question is: What life changing choice are you making today?

All my hatsoff to the committed spirit seated within all of us!

Nishtha

If Kobe Bryant needs it, why not we

The legendary basketball played Kobe Bryant recently played the last match of his career. Did he play anything below the standard that was expected out of him? No, he played the last match of his life with the same zeal and enthusiasm to achieve, like a beginner does. Would playing in any lesser way could take away his accolades and fame? Neither. That is why he is Kobe. He doesn’t know anyhow how to deliver lower than the standards he set for himself (and not those of society or family or critics) and he knows that he is accountable to the person who looks at himself in the mirror every single day.

Why are we discussing Kobe over here despite the fact that most of the readers do not have any relationship with him whatsoever? We are talking of him because inspiration does not come to the door of the gifted-cum-talented artists telling them that now is the time their fortune will be created. With due respect, this legend had the mind and the body just like any other human being, with the only difference being that he set impeccably high standards to achieve them, and he conditioned his body and mind to do whatever it takes, to match those standards.

A legend is made the legend because of the practices they follow as a part of their daily routines and rituals. They also do not like the pain and the disciplines of their rituals, but they understand that the price of regret is more than the price of discipline. The superstars are aware that a diamond is a piece of charcoal that handled stress exceptionally well. How many of us go to a downward spiral once we face a piece of dejection? It is not wrong to feel low when things are going awry. It is rather very necessary to feel the pain so that you get out of it even stronger. When you have felt the pain, it is the time to roll up your sleeves and get in excellence mode. You do it consistently, and soon you emerge as a winner – before you even know it!

There is also a spectrum above the legends which makes them special. That’s where Kobe comes into picture. He did not care about that the future respect after his match would anyways belong to him only, he simply chose to focus on the Now and reflect what is always reflected through his game: super-performance. Even though it was the last match of his career, he did not check his cellphone notifications. How many of us are so utterly focused on the daily matches of our lives? Are we taking control of our lives or letting that girl or guy have fun with our emotions? If not so far, now is the time to reflect on what is going on in your life and how you can be disciplined in your approach towards this magnificence called life.

There are no specially crafted human beings on the planet, as I keep on repeating it because repetition creates a neural pathway in your brain, thereby making you believe what is being created. Does that mean we may reach the Kobe-yance levels in our lives and even exceed the initial expectations of ourselves? Yes we can. And here’s how you can do it:

  1. Do the difficult thing, that you hate, but you know will take you to the next grandness. Go for it. The fact of the matter is that your mind will lay down all the traps for you to return to the original state of beginning. Do not listen to that chatter. Listen to the heart that wants to open up to the world and share its magnificence.
  2. Choose to rise above the behavioral patterns of people around you. People are accustomed to criticize every single human being who leaves the herd and has the audacity to roar. Even when you are alone, remember that the lion is the king, and you have to be bold to become the king or queen of your life, regardless of the mood swings of the mundane moods.
  3. Most importantly, always remember that humility and honor are the only ways of life. Even when you know that the other person has committed a wrong, do you have the humanity to still rise as a human being and shower some love in the conversation? Yes, you do. Acts are wrong and never people. When we develop this ability to distinguish the act from the actor, we end up living a more peaceful life, because at core, all human beings emerge from nowhere but awesome possibility and wondrous cheer.

The only way to rise to legendary is to remember that all humanly ways are the legendary ways. When we discover that the spark is within ourselves, it can be very well lit up and set an example for generations to follow.

Do share your views on bringing the change, and share the blog with a friend who you know will be benefited by it.

Happy weekend and week ahead!

Nishtha Gehija

“You” gets closer to yourself

TAB today is all about bringing you closer to you. As discussed yesterday, we all were supposed to talk about the actionables to make our mental blueprint a reality. Before that, let me remind you, that you come alive through your mission of life. “Until you have something to die for, you are not fit to live”, came the phenomenal words from Martin Luther King Jr. Too often the above average people set goals for themselves, however, they get caught in the cobwebs of the naysayers that they lose sight of their destination. What I know clearly, is that you are different, because you are utterly committed to educating yourself to making yourself better, despite your current levels of excellence, and that is what makes you a hero. You are the CEO of awesomeness, so keeping your eyes still on your blueprint is not a choice that you make, rather it is the only way that you have, and I salute you for that.

So, coming back to our blueprint, we rise only to the extent we think ourselves to be capable of. If you think that people are going to adore you or stay away from you, in both cases, you will achieve the exact outcomes you desired of. If you think you can manage a large team of talented individuals or you think that people are always conspiring against you, being envious of your position; in either case, you are going to achieve what you thought of.

This is the magic of blueprint. What gets out on the canvas is because of what is being used as the raw material in the form of colors at the back of the mind.

Isn’t it amazing? Yes it is. Yes, some will say that you have tried this before however, it didn’t work out. Well, how much time do you give to a baby to learn to walk, after which you say: “No more trying. Sit back!”? Well, we never relent, and there is no doubt why everyone walks. So why relent in our own lives for the achievement of our dreams? We must not and we are not supposed to.

Here is my take to make you relentless and to keep taking action, no matter what the tides are bringing on:

  1. Always set an intention for your tasks. When you know what role you are going to play, game becomes all the more fun to play. This happens in all the games: batsmen in cricket, goal-keepers in football, and even cleaners in a Fortune 500 company: are blessed to do their job because they know their intentions.
  2. Do more than what you are paid to do. Not because you should be a giver. Not because you want to look good in everyone else’s view. Do it because you are priceless, and your services done with such great love are not to be traded for a price tag. Right?
  3. Have a daily analysis of your life every night (not more than 5 minutes) and visualizing your next day (at least more than 10 minutes). The time just before we go to sleep and immediately after we rise in the morning, are the most powerful times of the day. The mind has not yet got into its “judge” mode and can be trained to believe whatever is planted into it. Use this precious time to create the life of your marvel, and the rest of the day will be less effort and greater ease and productivity.

Yes is the way to life. In order to get to any place you are not currently at, you need to reach that place in your mind first. Not only in your morning meditation. Not only in the evening analysis and visualization. Whole day. Always. Your mind obeys every command you input into its operating system. Do you trust your mind to trust the unfolding process?

Let’s get more connected through your comments below. Also, please share the blog post with a friend who will love reading this and go to the next level in their lives.

Awesomeness and bliss ~~

Thank you with deep adoration

Nishtha Gehija

Why do some chosen ones always succeed?

Focus: a lot of people do succeed and a lot of people do not succeed because of the differences in their approaches towards life. Most of the happy successful people were not born with a silver spoon in their mouth. They became successful because they chose to focus their attention on a goal and work super-awesomely wonderfully to achieve that goal.

Today I watched a Masterclass from John Assaraf wherein one viewer asked a question most of us are seeking answer to: “What is the fastest and the most efficient way to get from where I am right now to where I want to be?” The legendary, common and hardly executed answer that came from John was to have a clear blueprint of your goal in your mind, and then follow the steps from someone who has already done what you want to do.

Tremendous.

You have to have a blueprint. But what would happen when someone at work does something unpleasant? This is where your blueprint comes into action. If at the beginning of the day, you set a blueprint of a calm and easy person, then when such deviating personalities enter into your life, you naturally tend to focus on what is important to you and do not waste your energy on the unimportant issues.

In today’s blog post, we are going to talk about how to set a blueprint for yourself, which will be followed by habits and rituals of the achievers with “Champion Mindset” and what actions you can take to make those rituals your rituals.

Please think over the following questions on paper while setting your blueprint:

  1. What do I want to achieve in my life? It should include all areas, ie, physical, mental (career goals included here), emotional and social (relationships).

It is more important than you think to have clarity of goals, because unless you know where are you going, you will keep driving on the ring road with everyone taking a lift in your car and making you feel even worse about not having your destination.

  1. The next question to ask is: Who can I model? There are champions in every industry who have mastered their crafts. Plan the steps that they took in their lives and inculcate them into your habits and routines.
  2. Thirdly, and most importantly, always remind yourself about how you are going to serve the world through achievement of your goals. Life is and was never about hoarding. More money and success means more service to the world. Richest people are so because they are philanthropists, not that they are philanthropists because they are rich. Please stop for a moment to reflect on that statement.

Lastly, for your blueprint to get real, remember that one who loves their work and performs it with utter devotion is an artist. Today after my car went for service, I was escorted by a rickshaw-puller to my home. He was such a confident and humble person that could blow away all your miseries. That man is a legend. Because he was performing his art like the best in his industry, which makes magic come alive through him. Isn’t it?

See you in the next blog post continued forward from here.

In order to get more connected, please share how does your blueprint look like, in the comments below, and share the blog post with a friend or anyone whom you know will be benefitted by it.

Keep rocking, and keep getting bolder.

Wondrous joy J

Nishtha Gehija

Is choice always available?

Morning alarm: choice – wake up and be grateful for the day or check notifications and hamper your creativity

Going to the office: choice – with the passion to change the world or to join the water-cooler gang

At home: choice – either to be fully present and enjoying for your family or to download the grudges of the world to your loved ones

We all have a choice. Every time. Even when the things are going against us and the normal person would go into a deep pit, an extraordinary human being carves out moments to be joyful and be present.

The future belongs to those who are alive in the beauty of the now. Beauty in the chirping birds, wonderfully constructed highway and even the dedication of service staff in our office. Yes there are going to be awesomely challenging moments, and they must, because the darkest of the moments reveal to us our greatest lights.

The fact is that no amount of motivation or pushing will work in your favor unless you make the decision to take a forward momentum in your life. You just have to make a choice to move forward or to remain stuck, complaining about what is happening right now.

So why are we talking so much about making a choice? Because a choice requires willpower; and using the finite supply of willpower to make great choices is what makes an Edison different from a wannabe scientist, or a Zuckerberg different from the “also coded”. Are all super-achievers the same or are they simply great choice makers? No, they are not at all same, they simply make wondrous choices that land them in what we call their dream destination. The real source of reaching that destination is, having a pre-determined choice to work upon their art, and leaving no room for the willpower to intervene and affect that choice.

Do you know that life is a continuum of choices? One great spiritual figure, Dadi Janki was once asked by a journalist, that how she maintained the energy and vigor like an adolescent at the completion of a century in her life? Her reply was: “Because I do not waste my energy.” Every morning we wake up with a full glass of water. We just have to remember that the water does not get spilled over at the distractions of the world. Yes, all that we are looking for is within us only, are we focused on self development to this extent that we blind ourselves from the pessimisms of the world.

Each one of us has a choice to visualize our future self in the now, and then act in the moment. Life will manifest its prestigious and honorable gifts to all of us, once we make ourselves resonated with those gifts.

Today’s strategies, do not talk about “doing” the actions. These talk about the emotional and behavioral aspects of our personality, that can be altered and modified with a little bit of presence:

  1. Have fun with life. Savor singing the songs with your friends on the long drive. Savor the delicious ice-cream with the joy-enriched kids. You will regret not plunging in those moments.
  2. Treat every human being with regard. Even though they are behaving in a manner that is not pleasant, you have the humanity to be in your aura, and not someone else’s harmful aura affect your life. “Be kind to everyone, because everyone you meet is fighting a tough battle,” said the wise Buddha.
  3. No matter where you are in your life, you always have some things in your life to be grateful for. Count your blessings, and you will have more of them, and vice versa. Focusing to focus is a skill, that can be developed with practice, and yes, choice. Gratitude brings plentitude. Only when you are contended with what you have, you will be able to enjoy the mountain peak of what you want. Otherwise, it is always going to be a journey from peak to peak burning yourself out, physically and emotionally, which I do not want for yourself. Do you?

If you believe in your capacity to achieve anything, nature will correspond to the tune of your song and make you come more alive, every single day. Are you ready to make the choice, if yes, what is that choice? Please share it in the comments below, and share the blog post with a friend or anyone whom you know will be benefitted by it.

Keep rocking, and keep getting bolder.

Wondrous gratitude,

Nishtha Gehija