We may think of winning in terms of getting that big project done, living in a palace or earning certain amount of money that will finally make us a winner.

Respectfully, I disagree.

Winning begins when you fight the demons of the daily life. A human being who refuses to accept mediocrity and sets her own standards to change the world through her work, even if it is a back-office work, is a winner.

The guy who speaks his truth, not worrying about the acceptance of others, and grants himself his acceptance by being authentic, is a winner.

The parent who refuses to make his kid cram up the history lessons, and makes the time to take her to the music class, is a winner.

Most importantly, winner is the human being in the mirror, who knows that there is no such day when demons and the resistance are not standing in their way to shun the Indomitable Human Spirit, it is only a matter of their choices that they fight the demons and live a life that is authentic, strengthened by bruises, stacked up by Daily little wins against the demons seeking to make the most of them in their uncertain times.


Our stained glass window

The phrase coined by Joseph Campbell, states the wonderful analogy we use in our lives more than we can ever measure. We don’t see the world as it is, we see the world as we are. Powerful.

If someone is rude to you at work, it doesn’t mean that they are a bad person. It may simply mean that they had a tough fight with their parents last night. If the other person is not receiving your call, simply means they are away from their phone, and not that they are ignoring you. If people blame you for their diseases, it is because they have been conditioned to believe that disease could enter their body through others, instead of realising that all pains and frustrations have their cause and healing within. If a loved one shouts at you, it is their cry for love and understanding, make the call to love them even more.

We will never cease to have learning experiences as long as we are alive. Based on my previous hotel visits, I learned that windows were always sealed for security purposes. Lo and behold! The one in this hotel is being opened!! And it took me 3 days of stay to clear this perceptual filter and actually reach to the window to take in the fresh oxygen!!!

So what are the perceptual filters that have been holding you back? It is not easy to look within and experience the world anew. One who does, awakens.img_8606

The “L” on your car

When I was learning driving, people around me asked to put an “L” symbol on the back and front glasses, so that anyone who saw my car would drive carefully and also avoid my mistakes.

Life-changing question here is: When in life did we decide that we know everything and there is nothing else left out? When was it made constitutional that after a certain age you are not supposed to commit mistakes? And which bylaws state that a car without an “L” on the glass is bound to never meet with an accident?

We are here because of the relationships we have formed over the course of our lifetime. Before going anywhere, the first and most important relationship you have is with the person you meet in the mirror daily. Once you listen to that person’s heart and soul, life begins to transform. Once you treat that person in the mirror like royalty, everything else takes care of itself. And once this person begins to forgive other people, not because they were right, rather because forgiveness is a gift we give to ourselves, all the pieces of life begin to make sense in the long term.

We all have an “L” on our lives as long as we are here. No age, education, experience has the right to put a full stop to your learning. Just make sure to have a perfect relationship going with the person in the mirror and everything will take care of itself.image

Welcome to life!

How graceful you are under fire is how much you have developed yourself as a human being. As you walk through life, you are going to face difficulties. Only people in grave do not have difficulties. The question is: what are you going to do with them? Let the difficulties take their toll on you, or you use the difficult situations in your life to make yourself stronger.

We all do not need more apps or products to make us happier. We just need to confront, accept and love the human being we meet everyday in the mirror. Then life will start falling in place, for sure.

Dearest darlingest society! Take a chill pill!!


Dear society,

With all the nurturing and protection that you have given to all of us, it would be my divine pleasure to request the same nurturing and protection for your own self. The pace at which, we the human beings are discovering our true identity and leaving the safe harbor of fright and sticking to the status quo, there will not be a time too far away when the “society” does not exist as an entity in itself.

What I mean simply is this: the society teaches us and trains us to follow the herd. Go to a certain kind of school, have best grades, land into the best colleges, get picked up for doing a job for someone who themselves have followed the herd, and surprisingly, the method which takes away more than 2 decades of every creative and blooming human life, does not teach us how to face the uncertainty: the only thing which is most certain in Every human life. Similarly, society has taught us to make relationships with only those kind of people whom we “should” make a relationship with as per the societal definition, and has taught every human mind not to follow their heart and soul, even when they yearn for something beyond the societal norms and that is the right path for them.

Where are we leading towards by following this scarcity mindset? Be like everyone else, wear the same kind of clothes that everyone does, think the same thoughts that everyone else thinks, and lo and behold baby….you have landed up in the grave without doing anything significant like everyone else does.

In order to be really living beyond the things that scare us and to open up to the things that Universe wants us to experience, we must know that the safest way to go is to break free from the chains that have held us back since the time we were born. This is a pattern imprinted in our minds for long, and leaving it will and has to cause the discomfort. We have to make the decision: either to feel the pain of regret or to feel the pain of challenging the status quo. Since it is pain, it will cause suffering. Beyond suffering lies the solution. We all are here to be the best version of the solution for every brave heart witnessing us, so that they get an inspiration to light up the fire that ignites within them.

So with all my heart and soul, dearest darlingest society, I will make sure that no one follows you in giving up on their true lives and following their hearts. I do not know how many folks will read this post, what I do know for sure is that whoever reads this post, will connect with this from a sinew of their being, and will take an action to be the architect of their lives instead of being the manager of circumstances.
It is we, every single one of us, who create the society.

Be crazy and foolish enough to listen to that whisper which your heart is making with you. With it, lies your happiness. And happiness of every other human being.

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Thank you


Nishtha Gehija

Before we know, we all will be flukes


Almost 3 months ago, me and my parents moved into our new apartment. One of our distant relatives and father of one of my school friends, liked the apartment so much that he also made the plans to shift into one.

And then an unexpected thing happened. Within 2 months, this relative of ours passed away at a very young age. His son had to be slapped and forced to cry before his father had to be buried.

This is life. It takes unexpected turns we never imagined. The time to do the right thing is Now. Before we know it, you and I will be flukes. What will remain thereafter is the would haves and the should haves. Do not let that happen to your life.

As you step into yourself and out into the world, check the ego at the doorstep. Make the conversations as if they were the best and the most precious conversations you could ever have. Because that is the truth. We all are here to nurture the human connection that we all share: beyond the societal fragments and boundaries.

Make time to do the right thing, only for the reason that it is the right thing and your heart knows that it is the right thing. Any other logic or question won’t hold true then. Most importantly, make giving love a priority: irrespective of waiting for the other person to show up to you with love. And do the right thing always. Because it is The Right Thing. And we may never know, till when we are alive to be waiting for the right time, as the right time is the Now.

Stop the self-loathing cycle, baby!

We homo sapiens
Carriers of divine emotions
Sometimes life plays with us
Sometimes we play with life
Either ways, we do not know

What we do know for sure
Is that
There is no roadmap
Where our lives will turn
Wherever it may be
We need to trust God, The Superpower
To align things right

Till the time things do get right
I urge you
To cease the self-loathing
To accept and love everything
To own your life
To be proud of Everything
To think positive about people for whom the world says you shouldn’t
To adore and respect the people who f*** you off
Because what you give to others, begins by you giving it to yourself
To set your own boundaries in life
To follow your heart
Let the tears flow
Let life happen
Let the Greatest Power perform its magic
Whatever that magic means

And most importantly
Be loving to your emotions
Deep within them
Is the seed
That will bear the fruit
We never imagined