This is a form of love

Just had dinner at a self-service restaurant in Patiala. As the restaurant was self-served, it was quite clear that customers had to take even water by themselves. However, the servers in the restaurant had a protocol to serve water to every guest without water on their table. Since I have a protocol of not having water while eating, I politely refused to the first glass served to me. In two minutes, I was served water by another server; and again, I refused. In the next two minutes, I was served a third glass of water which I didn’t refuse.

Great management lesson here: wowing your customer is our collective responsibility as a team. Great service does not hold any single person accountable for the profits or losses as a unit. Our results are as an entity.

If someone who gets paid very little can do this, can we not leave our ego at our doorstep every single day before we present ourselves to our customers? Think over it…ego is the common thing. Transcending it will make your customers your raving fans. Ultimately we are all in the business id transforming lives: how we do it for the positive or negative is going to determine our destiny as well.

If you have not yet read my book “This is What You Are Looking For” grab your copy at Amazon and also leave a review. Also, share in the comments below about the action steps arising out of today’s blog post. Together we will change the world: one game changing move at a time, by every single one of us.

Thank you


Nishtha Gehija


What are you giving away today?

What we give to others, comes back to us in a river. So isn’t it a great idea to populate your thoughts with positive outlook? It is easier said than done. It means that once you give away the feelings of hatred and dislike towards other people, and replace those feelings with optimistic, cheerful and purposeful thoughts, life begins to bring miracles to you.

As Rhonda Byrne says in The Power, just 51% focus on positive words and emotions are enough to change your life. As a matter of fact, what we give to others comes to us before it reaches anyone else in the world. And then the similar vibrations of others brings about multifold of those thoughts.

Our true nature is growth in a positive frame of mind. Thus, thinking positive is a lot more easier than thinking messed up thoughts. Even when the other person is totally wrong, even when you have been mistreated, thinking a great thought that will uplift you is always a choice. The wise make that choice. The happy make that choice. The successful make that choice. What is your choice today?

The 1:10 ratio

Everything that is being done is to make everything in our lives better. The whole game is to scale to the next level of excellence and awesomeness.

The human beings who do it purposefully witness amazing levels of success and happiness in their lives. The human beings who do not inject deliberate growth in their lives are unconsciously making a way for negativity.

So if you are not feeling great in any area of your life, consider the thoughts you have been thinking predominantly about the same, and without a doubt they are negative ones.

However, the good news is: you can change any area of your life once you become aware of it. Now that you have become aware of the energy drainer in your life, it is time to convert it into energy creator.

Researchers have revealed that for every disempowering or negative thought, we must think of at least 10 things that we adore or are grateful for. As we keep on doing it on a daily basis, sooner than we think, we have transformed the potential negative situation into an opportunity to serve us and our emotions.

This is how we become powerful. Any great human being who has tasted success is no different from another human being who has never witnessed success. It all boils down to eliminating the virtues that do not serve us by watering and cultivating the virtues that will serve us.

As simple as this sounds, once we practice being grateful and optimistic about the area of life that we want to improve, our lives immediately begin to change in ways beyond our imaginations.

If you have not yet read my book “This is What You Are Looking For” grab your copy at Amazon and also leave a review. Also, share in the comments below about the action steps arising out of today’s blog post. Together we will change the world: one game changing move at a time, by every single one of us.

Thank you


Nishtha Gehija

If we chose to release…

In life, the degree of happiness and ultimately success is less determined by what we do, and is hugely determined by what we do not do. It sounds a paradox, that the secret of any great human being is that they were focused on doing more and better of the things that were their niche, and outsourcing the things that they were not good at.

We all aim for greatness and very few achieve it: because we be all things to all people, and nothing to ourselves. If we chose to focus a few minutes every morning and evening on the kind of person that we ought to become and the goals that we must achieve, the desire to be liked by everyone else fades away.

This releases the chains of approval and burden we unconsciously accept from people around us. Once we have released what is no longer serving us and focus daily and consistently on what serves us the best, happiness and success begin to show up on a consistent basis, as a part of our habits and rituals. 🙂

We all have this, and so we are the richest

In a world where we feel incompetent to survive, what matters the most is to make the best use of what you already have. Once we become competent enough to exercise our latent powers, we become more powerful to adopt and exercise the external greatness that is waiting to be expressed through us. This inner power is the power to focus. Our focus determines our locus. The things we focus on are the things that are going to determine our destiny. As hard as it sounds, the truth is that we are creating our future by what we are doing today.

So let us burn all our boats and focus on the following questions:

  • If I had to give one lesson of life to a kid who is very important to me, what would that lesson be?
  • Am I really after the goals and priorities of my life, or am I caught up in the thick of thin things?
  • What works, what doesn’t work?

It is the fact of life that no human being is different from other in their mind. What really drives the top 5 percent of the population is the quality of questions they ask. Ask and you shall receive. Make sure you ask intelligently, so that amazing things begin to show up in your life.

As we move through life, there are going to be tough times. In these tough times, we must lean into the discomforts that horrify us, by staying laser focused on the priorities and goals of our lives. It is easy for a coward to ignore the wonderful opportunity and lose focus with getting engaged with distractions. What makes amazing people who grace the planet earth is that their relentlessness and energy always triumphs, no matter what.

Never really thought about this


We are here playing our part in the world drama because we all are meant to achieve some real greatness and success in our lives. What very few people realise, is that you have to possess some very important riches before material success shows up in your life.
These riches include kindness, empathy, courage, grit and grateful attitude.

We will talk about kindness today. What is the point of being alone in your richness party? What is the point of having material success at the cost of hurting every human being?

“Be kind to everyone, because every single person you meet, is fighting a hard battle,” said the Buddha. If we get angry at someone, let us be mindful of the fact that whatever they do, is to the best of their knowledge. If we act from a standpoint of a detached observer, we will find that the titbits that rob us of our temper do not matter in the bigger perspective. What all matters is how kind we were.

Even though there is a very typical and difficult situation, remember that getting angry is always an option and never a necessity. If we make kindness a necessity, it will pop out under all circumstances, good or not so good.

Most importantly, you get the first and best serving, of whatever you give to others. There is no doubt why people scolding everyone around them look decades older. There is also no surprise that people being light hearted in their conversations win over the hearts of everyone and look decades younger.

We get what we tolerate in life, and that shapes our destiny. There is no better time than now, to make the choices that will change the direction of the waves, forever.

If you have not yet read my book “This is What You Are Looking For” grab your copy at Amazon and also leave a review. Also, share in the comments below about the action steps arising out of today’s blog post. Together we will change the world: one game changing move at a time, by every single one of us.

Thank you


Nishtha Gehija

The problem with our problems

Most of us have a common problem with our problems: we think we should not have them. So when they do arise, we try to get rid of them.
The fact of matter for Everyone is this: Life is not happening to us, it is happening for us. Each and every circumstance in our life has brought us to the point where we are today. Sometimes we try to make sense of them, and the fact is they were unjust and did not make sense at all. We were and are deeply touched and pierced by our problems and we must be.

The question is: what are we going to do with it? How are we going to use the problem that presented itself in our life? It is not easy to let go of the pain and move forward with the lessons. Very difficult. So is staying in the past. What do you want your life to turn into? Do you want your hunger to be dismayed into guilt and prejudice or do you want to turn the table around with your attitude?

The most important fact of the matter is this: you matter more than you ever thought possible. Even though the society might have vaccinated you to think otherwise. The very fact that you are here reading this tells us that there are infinite stories and lessons that the world needs to learn through you. So much that you make the world proud because of your occurrence.

So go out there and make your impact. It will be the lighthouse to millions of people on the planet. Every story is. Because in the end, only dead people do not have problems. Also, only the ones who remain graceful and grateful amidst the wolf-clothed priceless lessons, come out with shining colours, colours that colour every life they touch.